Developing a Lasting Gay Relationship
by Dennis Schleicher
Like all relationships that list over a long period, gay partnerships change and evolve as the years pass, but the change can occur over time just might happen so gradual both partners may not realize they are happening, and misunderstandings can sometimes arise. As the gay society has many deep issues dealing with self-esteem and self-worth, accompanied by years of societal conditioning that lends itself to manifest externally through self-worth. Partners do not always pass from one stage of development of their relationship to the next at the same time, and so changes can be misinterpreted as a loss of interest. If, for instance, one partner is still in the passionate ‘honeymoon’ period of the relationship, craving sex at all times of day and night, while his partner has moved on to the less frantic second period, of their relationship development. Where the relationship emphasis is placed on home making along with developing a family, then there may be a mistaken perception that the relationship has run its course. Gay relationships can extend over many decades, or they may last only one night. Whether long or short term, they should be treated with respect, and that participates should mean not only to pleasure each other’s bodies, but to enhance each other’s mind, and spirits. When you share something of yourself with another person, it should enrich you both, and when you offer your bodies to each other, it should involve more than just the ambition to achieve an orgasm. It would be unrealistic to expect every sexual encounter to be a transcendental, life-changing experience. Sometimes there is no empathy, no concentration, no connection, no common ground between you and your partner, and you both except that you do not want to pursue your connection. However, when this occurs, you both should not treat yourselves with the lack of dignity that we deserve as human beings.
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