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Who is (BMMA) Bisexual Married Men of America – Offer Support, Suggestions, Affirmation, Challenges or Further Questions about Coming Out or Not

Who is (BMMA) Bisexual Married Men of America – Offer Support, Suggestions, Affirmation, Challenges or Further Questions about Coming Out or Not

Some of us are bisexual, some of us are gay, and some of us are trying to figure out who or what we are. Most of us are married, some of us are engaged to be married, some are separated, divorced or widowed. We are mostly living in North America, but we have members in countries around the world.

As bisexual and gay married men we face unique challenges in life unlike gay or bisexual single men. Whether we are in or out of the closet, we face discrimination everyday of our lives. We are accused of “fence sitting” by heterosexuals and homosexuals. If we are closeted, we must hide our feelings from our wives and others. If we are out, we must find a way to incorporate our feelings into our marriages and families whether or not we act on them. Some of us who are out have tremendously supportive wives. Others have had their marriages and families destroyed. Some of us have even lost our jobs.

How BMMA Functions Today’s technology allows one to participate in a vast array of electronic media, including this group. BMMA is an email list-serve which offers a unique way of dealing with the challenges we face daily. Messages posted by email to BMMA are read by our hundreds of members. Those who wish to offer support, suggestions, affirmation, challenges or further questions can post their response to the mailing list for all to see, or they may write to the original poster privately, off the list. Although friendships and even loves have developed between men who met through the list, BMMA is not a place to post personal ads. You may sign on to the mailing list and “lurk” for as long as you like. We hope you will soon feel like joining in the ongoing conversations, or begin a new “thread” of your own.

When you first post to the list, we suggest you start with a brief introduction of yourself. Share that which you are comfortable making public: Your first name or a nick-name, what part of the country (or world) you live in, your marital status, whether or not you are out to anyone, etc. You will find all BMMA brothers are or have been in a similar situation, and deeply respect one’s need for confidentiality and/or anonymity. The group has the potential for large volumes of mail, but a digest format is available. In the digest format you receive one email each day that contains all the posts in the prior 24 hours. Under the regular format you receive each message as it is posted. This group has proven very effective and has changed many lives for the better. Welcome to a world you never knew existed!

BMMA website; Bisexual Married Men of America – Safer Sex.org
Be Safe- Dennis Schleicher Author of; Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-mail Diaries
Website; Support for The Other Man, Wives of Gay Men & Husbands of Straight Wives
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  1. John said,

    On some level i’ve always known i’m gay. I’ve always lied about it and denied it, especially to myself. I’ve
    Told my wife that i’m just bi but deep down down I know she knows. I’m so afraid of losing my kids. Both my wife and I were raised southern baptist (fire and brimstone). I’m worried that if I lose my marriage, what happens if I never find a man for me to love or to love me? all the websites i’ve found seem directed towards supporting the wife, my wife knew I had sex with men before we got married but she is disgusted by homosexuality (so she says). I want to come out and feel that i’m ready, any advice out there? What are my chances of keeping my family intact?

  2. Andreas said,

    Bi married man
    Just came out to his wife


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