My genre is extremely sensitive as I run one of the only support groups in the world for ‘Support for the Other Man.’

I will recommend and link your website to mine. And thank you again for the post.

Good luck with your Christian Dating Sites.

Dennis Schleicher
author of an explosives and controversial memoir; Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-Mail Diaries.

OMG!!!! Other than being in a different socio-economic strata, Ann and Phillip’s story could be mine! I just ran across some web-site “browsing” in March/April, and it has increased in frequency since then. He advertised in the outpersonals. I went for STD testing. I think the most disturbing part of the story was “when one of their advisers told me that by the time a gay man starts looking at porn sites on the internet, he has usually already had homosexual encounters of his own.” This really concerns me! As Ann did, I can look back now and think of “questionable” behaviors, evasions about the truth when asked directly about a questionable event, and now, outright lies.

I’ve been married 34 years, so I feel the same way about wanting to “try” to make it work, to keep the lifestyle I have —– yet wanting to get out quickly so no more time and emotional effort is wasted. I’m most angry about the dishonesty — even when we went to counseling, I told him I didn’t feel like we were even married (just roommates — we have barely any sex, and usually only if he’s been drinking), and he didn’t give a clue, just said that I “shouldn’t feel that way.” I’m in my mid-fifties, and don’t want to “start over” at 60.

Is there any way I could be put in touch with Ann? (you have my permission to give her my e-mail address, if you want, and she could contact me). I’m really hurting, and our stories / ages seem so similar, maybe she could help me NOT lose another three years of my life trying to figure out what to do!